*Instilling Goodness and Obedience in Children.*
Shaykh ‘Abdul-‘Azeez bin Abd-Allāh ar-Rājihi, [may Allāh preserve him], said:
“It is imperative that a child be educated and guided toward righteousness from an early age, while being gently corrected for any wrongdoing, such as drawing inanimate images or the wearing of gold for males. The Messenger of Allāh,صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّم, set a profound example when al-Hasan, as a young boy, took a date from the charity dates and placed it in his mouth. The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّم, gently prompted him to spit it out by saying, _‘Kikh, Kikh,’_¹ and explained, ‘Do you not realise that we do not consume what is given in charity?’ [Saheeh al-Bukhāri, 3072]. He did not dismiss the incident by saying, ‘He is just a child who does not understand.’ [Rather, he used the moment to instill a lifelong understanding of integrity and moral conduct.]
The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّم, exemplified the essence of nurturing moral conduct in children through his gentle guidance. He once taught, ‘Umar ibn Abi Salamah, who as a child, would let his hand wander across the dish while eating. The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّم, lovingly instructed him, saying, ‘O’ young boy, mention the Name of Allāh, eat with your right hand, and eat from what is directly in front of you.’ [Saheeh al-Bukhāri, 5376].
When a child turns ten, he is instructed to pray regularly, and if he fails to do so, he receives a gentle reprimand as encouragement. The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّم, said: ‘Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they are ten years old, and separate them in their beds. [Sunan Abi Dāwūd, 495]. This profound lesson underscores the importance of mindfulness and discipline, even in simple actions like eating. Yet, today, we often witness adults eating with their left hand, oblivious and without shame, a reflection of the lack of proper upbringing and education. From the age of seven, a child is commanded to pray and trained in goodness, setting the foundation for a lifetime of righteous conduct.
As children approach the age of ten, they may begin to experience sexual feelings and desires. It is prudent, therefore, to consider the implications of close physical proximity, such as sleeping arrangements with siblings or relatives. Such closeness could inadvertently foster temptation, as it presents scenarios in which inappropriate thoughts may emerge. It is wise to create boundaries that protect their innocence, as the devil might whisper to them and entice them to commit immoral acts.”
Taqyeed ash-Shawārid min al-Qawā‘id wal-Fawā’id | Shaykh ‘Abdul-Azeez bin ‘Abd-Allāh ar-Rājihi, [may Allāh preserve him].
Translation: Authentic Quotes
Footnote: ¹. _Kikh Kikh_ is an expression to spit it out.