بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
With regards to the dangers of engaging with the opposite gender unnecessarily and inappropriately, Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibril حفظه الله تعالى has discussed these matters extensively, publicly and privately — yet it appears to some people, the Aqeedah which the Sahabah have sacrificed their lives for, and likewise the righteous after them, has been reduced for them, to photoshoots holding up the Shahādah finger, and dressing yourself as wanna-be “Hisbah.“
These same people when they’re cloaked with the cloak of privacy, indulge in Fusūq and Sin, rivaling the filthiest of disbelievers — leaving Hisbah of one’s own desires, and settling only for Hisbah-style clothing. Not taking into account the inherent Nifāq of such a state, but also ignoring the negative light for which their actions will unjustly paint the Muwahhideen once their actions are exposed — and the one who engages in Fusūq persistently, ALWAYS gets exposed.
There should be, and Insha’Allah WILL be, zero tolerance for anyone who uses even a HINT of this pure and pristine Manhaj, in order to take advantage of anyone from the Muwahhiddeen, male or female.
These ignorant people, when exposed — and rightfully so, due to the public harm they pose — should be shunned, and avoided. They are not representatives of the Manhaj, not from near or afar.
Some quick pointers, so as you don’t get caught up in the web of a Fāsiq or Fāsiqa:
1) Never engage with females/males of the opposite gender, privately, without a third party — even for Deen related questions (usually these people are the biggest ignoramuses, so they shouldn’t even be asked Deen related questions to begin with).
2) Always keep things dry and straight to the point, even with a third party involved.
3) Employ the block button very liberally.
4) If someone is constantly engulfed in drama and problems, stay away from them — male or female.
5) Sisters, have a WALI, and respect his authority. He is there to protect your interests, you undermining your Wali does nothing but undermine your interests.
6) When appointing a Wali, do so with someone known in your community, or someone respected, so that the prospective suitor will think twice before trying to play games. Check out these videos for some guidance Insha’Allah.
7) An unsettling trend has appeared, in which sisters/brothers have “No DMS from brothers/sisters” in their social media Bios, and these same people tend to always be involved in these impermissible relationships and engage in inappropriate communication.
8) Sisters, STOP letting the entire world know you’re a sister on social media. If you’re there to learn, then just learn. When you do so, you are advertising to desperate brothers to message you.
9) We don’t need VISIBLE sister accounts giving Da’wah on social media, there’s enough brothers doing so, and when you do so, you open up yourself to many unnecessary Fitnah.
10) Sisters, just because some guy has long hair and a photo of himself with the Shahadah finger and he’s staring dramatically into the camera, or takes videos of himself walking and puts a dramatic Nasheed in the background to give off “Mujāhid” vibes — understand that makes him a clown and the antithesis of what he’s trying to portray. Please don’t mistake the two.
11) Brothers, ignore sisters if they message you. Women aren’t a Fitnah for everyone, “except you.” Don’t ever think you’re the exception to the rule.
Forgive me for the harshness, but it’s getting quite ridiculous that every couple of months, an announcement like this has to be made.
May Allah forgive and protect us all.
-Your Brother
