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🌿 لا شك أن خدمة الزوجة للزوج من الأمور التي تأسر قلبه، 💙

💕 وترفع مكانة الزوجة في نظر زوجها،
🫶🏻 لما تبذله من معروف في العناية به، والنظر في أموره وحاجياته، وتجتهد في الحرص على راحته، وتحسن إليه بتنفيذ كل طلباته،
🎈 فلا يفتقد شيئًا إلا ويراها قد اهتمت به
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*كتاب حياتنا الأسرية بين الواقع والمأمول*
*الشيخ محمد غالب العمري-حفظه الله-*

[15 Benefits] Islamic Etiquettes in the Daily Life of a Muslim - Abu Suhayl Anwar Wright

Click & Listen:

1 - Introduction
2 - Remember Allah Upon Waking Up
3 - Washing the Hands & Sniffing Water
4 - Making a Supplication Upon Entering the Bathroom
5 - Some Rules of Using the Bathroom
6 - Making Istinja or Istijmar After Using the Bathroom
7 - Beginning with the Right Side When Putting Both Shoes On
8 - Making the Dua When Leaving Your Residence
9 - Mentioning the Name of Allah Upon Entering the Home & Upon Eating
10 - Eating the Right Hand & Praising Allah
11 - When You Go to Sleep, Wipe-off Your Mattress
12 - Before Sleeping Blow in Your Palms & Recite 3 Soorahs
13 - Recite Ayatul-Kursi Before Going to Sleep
14 - Dedicated a Portion of Your Night to Prayer
15 - One is Punctual in Waking-Up for the Fajr Prayer

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📌تربية الأبناء مهمة الزوجين لا أحدهما

👤للشيخ د. محمد بن غالب العمري
- حفظه الله تعالى -
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‏💎إذا اختلف الأخ مع أخيه، أو الزوج مع زوجته والعكس، فلا يستعجل في اتخاذ أي قرار بشأن تلك العلاقة، فغالب القرارات السريعة تكون عاطفية مدمرة للصلة بينهما.
فوقت الغضب لا يرى الإنسان من صاحبه إلا ما يكره. ولا يتذكر منه إلا ما يغضبه.
شيء من الصبر يُذهب الكثير من الخطأ.

✒️الشيخ د.محمد بن غالب العمري حفظه الله


💎If a brother disagrees with his brother, or a husband disagrees with his wife, and vice versa, then let him not hasten in taking any decision regarding that relationship, for most hasty decisions are driven by emotions and are destructive to the bond between them.

In moments of anger, a person sees only what they dislike in the other and remembers only what fuels their anger.

Therefore, a bit of patience can prevent many mistakes.

✒️Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Ghalib Al-Umari حفظه الله

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💎An Ideal Marriage is A Strong Friendship: Muhammad Fiqi (رحمه الله) [preview from 5 Pillars of a Happy Muslim Home]

🏠Advice to a Newlywed Couple

✒️📜Lecture: Sharh Al-Mumti' Treatment of Spouses, Lesson 1 by Shaykh Uways aṭ-Ṭawīl حفظه الله @ Masjid Abdul-Aziz Bn Bāz

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📚 A Selection of Benefits from Sharh Al-Mumti' of Al-Allāmah Muhammad Bin Sāleh Al-Uthaymīn رحمه الله

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🕯️The Soul of the Prayer

👤Shaykh AbdurRahman as-Sa’adi -Rahimahullaah- said:

‘Al-Khushoo in the prayer is, the heart being present in front of Allaah Ta’ala. Bringing to mind that a person is close to Allaah, so his heart is tranquil due to that. His soul becomes calm, his movements become calm and has very little unnecessary movements in the prayer.

He is well-mannered in front of his Lord, he brings to mind everything that he says and does in his prayer, from the beginning of his prayer until the end, with which he negates evil whisperings and wicked thoughts.

This is the soul of the Prayer, and the purpose of it, and that is what is written for the worshipper of Allaah.’

📜[Tafseer Sa’adi 547]

👤Imam al-Qurtubi -Rahimahullaah- said:

‘When the prayer would be ready and a man from the scholars stood up to pray he would be in great awe of ar-Rahmaan (Allaah) so he would not raise his sight to look at something or that he would speak to himself about something from the worldly matters.’

📜[Tafseer al-Qurtubi 12/103]

👤Shaykh Rabee bin Hadi al-Madkhali said:

‘Strive to have Khushoo in your prayer, to forget the Duniya, to forget wealth and family, to forget everything, nothing remains in your mind except bringing to your attention the greatness of Allaah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.’

📼[From the lecture ‘Haqq Allaah ala al-Ebaad’, Majmoo Kutb wa Rasail ash-Shaykh 1/68]

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خطبة بعنوان:

الإحسان إلى الوالدين طريق الجنة.

للشيخ: خالد بن ضحوي الظفيري - حفظه الله تعالى.

الموقع:
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يوتيوب:
https://youtu.be/Pc-8p_hFjls

[Sharing Struggles and Joy]

Shaykh Abdullah Bassaam, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

Spouses experience affection, love, and mercy through marriage.

A human being needs a partner to share struggles and joys. (1)

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(1): See “Explanation of Umdatul-Ahkaam.”

‏[البارُّ بِوالِدَيْهِ]


-قال الإمامُ التّابعيُّ الجليلُ سعيدُ بنُ المسيب في حقِّ البارِّ بِوالدَيْهِ:


"البارُّ لا يَمُوتُ مِيْتَةَ سُوءٍ"


(التأريخ)لابن معين، رواية الدُّوريّ (٣/رقم١٢٠٣)و(٤/رقم ٤٧٦٦)و (المتّفق والمفترق)للخطيب(٣/ رقم ١٧٥٦).


-رزقنا اللهُ وإيّاكم البِرَّ بوالدينا في حياتهم وبعد مماتهم، اللهمّ آمين



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مقطع مرئي قيم بعنوان:
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للشيخ إبراهيم بن عبدالله المزروعي -حفظه الله-
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💎[No Ulterior Motives in Genuine Brotherhood].

Benefit: Abu Ja'far Al-Ṭaḥāwī (d. 321 AH رحمه الله) says in Sharḥ Mushkal al Athār (4599):

“On the authority of Abū Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه), the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) once went out to the cemetery and said:

" السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ دَارَ قَوْمٍ مُؤْمِنِينَ، وَإِنَّا إِنْ شَاءَ اللهُ بِكُمْ لَاحِقُونَ، وَدِدْتُ أَنِّي رَأَيْتُ إِخْوَانَنَا “

‘Peace be upon you, O dwelling of believing people. And indeed, if Allah wills, we will join you. I wish I had seen our brothers.’

قَالُوا: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، أَلَسْنَا بِإِخْوَانِكَ، قَالَ: "بَلْ أَنْتُمْ أَصْحَابِي، وَإِخْوَانِي الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَأْتُوا بَعْدُ، وَأَنَا فَرَطُهُمْ عَلَى الْحَوْضِ”

The Companions said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, are we not your brothers?’ He replied, ‘No, you are my Companions, but my brothers are those who have not yet come. I will precede them at the basin (al-Ḥawḍ).’

Al-Ṭaḥāwī (رحمه الله) says:

فَتَأَمَّلْنَا هَذَيْنِ الْحَدِيثَيْنِ، فَوَجَدْنَا الْأُخُوَّةَ هِيَ ‌الْمُصَافَاةَ ‌الَّتِي ‌لَا ‌غِشَّ ‌فِيهَا، وَلَا بَاطِنَ لَهَا يُخَالِفُ ظَاهِرَهَا،

Reflecting on this ḥadīth (and the previous one), we find that brotherhood (ukhuwwah) is the state of pure sincerity (muṣāfa)—one free of deception, with no hidden motives that contradict its outward expression.

وَمِنْهَا قَوْلُ اللهِ عز وجل: {إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ} [الحجرات: 10] أَيْ: لِأَنَّ مَا بَيْنَهُمْ، وَمَا بَعْضُهُمْ عَلَيْهِ لِبَعْضٍ، فَظَاهِرُهُ غَيْرُ مُخَالِفٍ لِبَاطِنِهِ،

Allah’s words reinforce this meaning: ‘Indeed, the believers are but brothers’ [Surat al-Ḥujurāt: 10], indicating that what exists between them and the commitments they uphold for one another are outwardly and inwardly consistent, without contradiction.”

📚 [Mu’assasah al-Risālah, 1st edition, 1415 h.]

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[11 Benefits)] Some Points of Parenting - Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Click & Listen:

1 - Children are a Gift from Allah
2 - Children are a Beauty & Trial of This World
3 - It's a Possibility that Children Divert Parents from Obedience to Allah
4 - The Prophets & The Righteous Supplicated for Righteous Offspring
5 - There are Benefits in Raising Righteous Children
6 - Obligatory to Cultivate Our Children Upon Good Behaviour
7 - Guidance is of Two Types
8 - Rectification Begins with Yourself
9 - Men Chose an Exquisite Wife
10 - Women Chose an Exquisite Husband
11 - Mentioning the Name of Allah at the Time of Intimacy

[20 Benefits] The Most Common Complaints Wives Have About Their Husbands - Rasheed Barbee

Click & Listen:

1 - Brothers Misrepresenting Themselves at the Sit-Down
2 - The Men Chatting with Unrelated Women
3 - The Man being Harsh with the Woman
4 - The Man Beating the Woman
5 - Calling Your Wives Offensive Names
6 - Unjust Polygyny
7 - Not Allowing Them Family Visits
8 - Giving Them too Much Housework
9 - Telling the Wives to Uncover
10 - Not Spending Upon the Wife
11 - Men that Don’t want to House Their Wives
12 - Taking the Wives Money
13 - Men Not Paying the Mahr
14 - Treating the Woman Bad to Get the Mahr Back
15 - Taking Loans from the Woman
16 - Buying Things in Her Name
17 - Requesting Your Rights & Not Giving Her Rights
18 - Brothers Not Spending Time with the Wife
19 - The Men Don’t Take Time to Teach Them
20 - Men Being Inconsiderate when it Comes to Intimacy

ⓜⓟⓤⓑⓢ Reminders & Quotes: Protect Deeds From That Which Corrupts & Ruins Them 🍃

ⓜⓟⓤⓑⓢ Reminders & Quotes: Hide Your Own Faults And Sins 🍃

✒️🕯️The Prophet ﷺ said,

"When it is a Friday, the angels stand at the gate of the mosque and keep on writing the names of the persons coming to the mosque in succession according to their arrivals. The example of the one who enters the mosque in the earliest hour is that of one offering a Camel (in sacrifice). The one coming next is like one offering a Cow and then a Ram (Sheep) and then a Chicken (Hen) and then an Egg respectively. When the Imam comes out (for Jumu'ah prayer) they (i.e. angels) fold their papers and listen to the Khutbah."

📖 Saĥîh Bukhârî (929)
📝Salafipublications Translation

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يوم الجمعة 🗓

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Many children are neglected after separation with little supervision, nurturing, support, or protection. The roles of the each parent are innate and common sensical, yet such basic sense is increasingly uncommon. This leaves our precious young ones vulnerable inside and outside of their homes. The household is often a group of familiar strangers.

A vessel only gives what it holds and it’s no wonder that the up and coming generation is ill prepared for adulthood, marriage or parenthood.

Neglect is often more detrimental than abuse because neglect is parental inattention/apathy while abuse is negative attention. Don’t pass down generational dysfunctional to future generations.


Islamic custody laws shine a bright light on the individual responsibilities of the mother and father whether still married or separated. These rights are all the more crucial after divorce.

Learn the rights of Muslim children, then educate, implement, & enforce.

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↲(⑬) - علِّم ولدك الأخلاق الفاضلة

اغرس في أولادك مكارم الأخلاق، علمهم الصدق، علمهم الشجاعة، علمهم الكرم، علمهم السخاء، علمهم الحشمة، علمهم الحياء، علمهم الغيرة.

وحذرهم من رذائل الأخلاق، حذرهم من الأخلاق الهابطة، حذرهم من الكذب، حذرهم من قلة الحياء، من قلة الحشمة، من قلة الغيرة، حذرهم من الجبن، والبخل، حذرهم من الأخلاق الهابطة والرذيلة .
(يا بني أقم الصلاة وأمر بالمعروف وانه عن المنكر واصبر على ما أصابك) .

علمه الحكمة علمه الفطنة، علمه الانتباه، علمه الحرص؛ لأن الأمر بالمعروف والنهي عن المنكر يحتاج إلى شجاعة، يحتاج إلى حكمة، ويحتاج إلى فطنة، ويحتاج إلى انتباه، ويحتاج إلى صبر وتحمل وتجلد.

(يا بني أقم الصلاة وأمر بالمعروف وانه عن المنكر واصبر على ما أصابك إن ذلك من عزم الأمور * ولا تصعر خدك للناس ولا تمش في الأرض مرحًا إن الله لا يحب كل مختال فخور).
حذره من العجب والكبر والرياء والغرور، علمه التواضع، ولين الجانب، وخفض الجناح للمسلمين.
(واقصد في مشيك واغضض من صوتك إن أنكر الأصوات لصوت الحمير) هذه التغذية المعنوية تعليم الدين ومكارم الأخلاق هي خير من التغذية الحسية.

نقول: جزا الله خيرا الآباء على الإنفاق على أولادهم في إطعامهم وشرابهم، لكن اعلموا أن التغذية المعنوية بتعليم الدين ومكارم الأخلاق هي خير من التغذية الحسية بالطعام والشراب، وأهم منها
التغذية المعنوية، خير من إعطائهم الذهب والفضة، التغذية بتعليم الدين ومكارم الأخلاق خير من إعطائهم الأموال من الريالات أو الدولارات، التغذية المعنوية بالدين والأخلاق هي التي سيسعدون بها في الدنيا والآخرة، وهي التي سينتفعون بها في الدنيا والآخرة، وسينفعونك أيها الأب وأيتها الأم في حياتكما وبعد مماتكما.
فاحرصوا غاية الحرص على هذه التغذية المعنوية.


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📢Advice for Fathers with their Children

🖊️By Shaykhul –Islaam
Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah as-Salafi -Rahimullaah-

📝Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

👤Shamsuddeen Muhammad bin Abee Bakr Ibn Qayyim aj-Jawzeeyah (d.751 A.H.) -Rahimullaah- said:
 
‘Allaah’s advice for fathers with their children precedes advice for children with their fathers.
So whoever was careless and negligent of educating his son, and leaves off benefiting him and leaving him useless, then he has been evil to him, extremely evil.

Indeed most children being corrupt is due to their fathers, and then being neglectful of them.

Them leaving their education of the Faraid (obligations) and the Sunnan (practices of the Sunnah) of the religion, so they caused them to be lost when they were young. Then the fathers did not benefit from them when they were older.

Just like some fathers held it to be shameful that their children were disobedient, so the child says, O my father you showed disobedience to me when I was young, so now I’m being disobedient to you now that I am older. You caused me to be lost when I was a boy,  so I caused you to be lost in your old age.’

📚[From ‘Tuhfat al-Mowdood bi Ahkaam al-Mowlood’ p.387]
 

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🎁The Give and Take of a Good Relationship

📜✍🏼An explanation of the famous ḥadīth of the Prophet (ﷺ) regarding living with one’s spouse in harmony. A call to overlook faults and to abandon nitpicking.

👤Imām ʾAbd al-Raḥmān ibn Nāṣir al-Saʿdī (1376 AH) said:

“The saying of the Prophet [ﷺ] ‘Let no believing man revile his wife [a believing woman]. If he finds himself hating one of her qualities, he will indeed find himself loving another one [of her attributes]’, offers two major benefits:

1 - The first is that it guides to the righteous way of dealing with one’s wife, close family, friends, workers, and whomsoever there exists any type of relationship or communication. It highlights that every person should fully and wholly prepare themselves for the fact that there must exist some type of flaw, deficiency, or hated thing [in that acquaintance]. So if you find that [flaw], compare it to your responsibility [concerning that acquaintance] and your duty of consistent communication [with that person] in order to cultivate consistent feelings of affection [between yourselves]. This is accomplished through reminding oneself constantly of this person’s good attributes and habits and the praiseworthy purposes of the relationship for yourselves and how it could affect others. It is by not distracting ourselves with those deficiencies, instead concentrating on the good of persistent  companionship and communication, that feelings of comfort can blossom.

2 - By this, the second benefit of this ḥadīth can occur which is the removal of all forms of worry and stress. This ensures the relationship is kept completely pure with both parties consistently carrying out their responsibilities towards one another regardless of whether those responsibilities are wājib (obligatory) [in the sight of Allāh] or mustaḥabb (recommended). Thus, do both parties derive true comfort and ease from one other. Whomsoever is not guided to this advice of the Prophet [ﷺ] and chooses to invert the matter will notice every single tiny flaw and completely ignore any good that is present. There is no doubt this person must be plagued by the sickness of stress. He has chosen to contaminate the affection that could have existed between him and his acquaintance. This will inevitably lead to both parties shirking their duties towards one another; duties which [Allāh has ordered] them to fulfil.”

📖Al-Wasāʾil al-Mufīdah li-al-Ḥayāt al-Saʿīdah: 44-45
🖊️Translated by: Riyāḍ al-Kanadī

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📜🕯️The Prophet (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam) said:

“Hide your ‘awrah (private parts) except from your wives and what your right hands possess.” (Ahmad 5/3)

And the mother of the believers, Ā’ishah (radiyallāhu ‘anhu) said:

“I and the Prophet (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam) would take a bath together from the same vessel of water after having sexual relations.” (Al-Bukhāri 1/64, Muslim 1/256)

So this is proof that the Prophet (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam) would look at his wife, and that she would look at him. And complete pleasure and enjoyment are achieved by gazing along with caressing, touching, whispering intimate speech, foreplay and sexual intercourse.

Ibn Al-Qayyim (d. 752H) stated:

“It is from the necessary affairs that a man precedes sexual intercourse with his wife with foreplay, kissing and sucking her tongue. Allah’s Messenger (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam) would participate in foreplay with his wives and kiss them.” (Zād al-Ma’ād, 4/253)

All of this is allowed and legislated―and it brings about love, intimacy, compassion and the utmost nearness between their hearts and bodies.

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⛈️What Harms Marriages?

👤Sh. Muhammad Ghalib said:

Marriage is love, mercy, ease, and contentment. Hence, it is obligatory upon the spouses to increase these affairs and distance themselves from all that nullifies and decreases them. And from the greatest of that which corrupts it is Harām relationships and evil connections.

Let the spouses know that blessings are removed and weakened due to the presence of sins and they are perpetuated and increased due to obedience.

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📝Translated by Raha Batts

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💉[How can he feel safe?]

👤Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (d. 751 AH رحمه الله) said:

“How can one be safe who has a wife that shows him no mercy, a child who makes no excuse for him, a neighbor he cannot trust, a friend who does not advise him sincerely, a partner who is unjust to him, an enemy who does not relent in his enmity, a soul that constantly inclines toward evil, and a world adorned in allure? — One who has destructive desire, overwhelming lust, overpowering anger, a devil who adorns evil, and a weakness that overtakes him?

If Allah takes him under His care and draws him near, then all of these are subdued for him. But if Allah forsakes him and leaves him to his own self, they all gather against him, leading to his ruin.”

📖 (al-Fawā’id, p. 64)

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‏[كيفَ يسْلمُ؟]


-قال الإمامُ ابنُ القيّم:


"كيفَ يَسْلَمُ مَنْ له زوجةٌ لا تَرحمُهُ، وولدٌ لا يَعذرُه، وجارٌ لا يَأمَنُه، وصاحبٌ لا يَنْصحُه، وشريكٌ لا يُنصِفُه، وعَدوٌّ لا يَنامُ عَن مُعاداتِه، ونَفْسٌ أمّارةٌ بالسُّوءِ، ودُنيا مُتَزيّنةٌ، وهَوىً مُرْدٍ، وشَهوةٌ غالبةٌ له، وغَضبٌ قاهِرٌ، وشيطانٌ مُزَيِّنٌ، وضَعفٌ مُسْتَولٍ عليه؟!
فإنْ تَولّاهُ اللهُ وجَذَبَهُ إليه؛ انْقَهرتْ له هذه كلُّها، وإنْ تَخلَّى عنه ووكلَهُ إلى نفسِه اجتَمعتْ عليه، فكانَتِ الهَلَكةُ"


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📝Nine Rights of a Husband upon His Wife

1. She obeys him in everything that is good but not that which is forbidden

Ibn ʿUmar (May Allāh be pleased with them) reported:
The Prophet ﷺ said, “All of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects, the man is a guardian of his family, the woman is a guardian and is responsible for her husband’s house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects.”
📚Bukharī and Muslim

Āʿishah reported that a woman from the Ansār married her daughter who had lost her hair because of illness. She came to Allāh’s Apostle ﷺ and said:
Her husband wants that false hair should be added to her head. Thereupon Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ said: The woman who adds false hair has been cursed. This Ḥadīth has been narrated on the authority of Nafi’ with the same chain of transmitters but with a slight variation of wording.
📚Muslim

Abū Hurayrah (raḍī Allāhu ʿanhu) reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would have commanded woman to prostrate to her husband.
📚Tirmidhī, Ḥasan Ṣaḥīḥ

Amr ibn Al-Harith Al-Mustaliq said:
“It used to be said that the people with the worst punishment [on the Day of Judgment] are two: A woman who disobeyed her husband, and a people’s Imam whom they dislike.”
📚Tirmidhī. Ṣaḥīḥ

2. She is thankful to him

Ibn ʿUmar (May Allāh be pleased with them) said:
The Prophet ﷺ said, “O women folk! You should give charity and be diligent in seeking Allāh’s forgiveness because I have seen (i.e., on the Night of the Ascension to the highest heavens) that dwellers of the Hell are women.” A woman amongst them said: “Why is it that the majority of the dwellers of Hell are women?” The Prophet ﷺ replied, “You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. In spite of your lacking in wisdom and failing in religion, you are depriving the wisest of men of their intelligence.” Upon this the woman asked: “What is the deficiency in our wisdom and in our religion?” He ﷺ replied, “Your lack of wisdom can be well judged from the fact that the evidence of two women is equal to that one man. You do not offer Salat (prayer) for some days and you do not fast (the whole of) Ramaḍān sometimes, it is a deficiency in religion.”
📚[Muslim].

3. That she does not anger him nor become angry with him

Narrated Abū Hurayrah:
The Prophet ﷺ said, “If a woman spends the night deserting her husband’s bed (does not sleep with him), then the angels send their curses on her till she comes back (to her husband).
📚Bukhārī

Abū Hurayrah (May Allāh be pleased with him) reported:
Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, “When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning”.
📚Bukhārī and Muslim

In another narration: The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, “When a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband, the angels curse her until morning”.
📚Bukhārī and Muslim

In another narration: Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, when a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond, the One Who is above the heaven becomes displeased with her until he (her husband) becomes pleased with her”.
📚Bukhārī and Muslim

Abū Umāmah narrated that:
Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ said: “There are three whose Salat would not rise up beyond their ears: The runaway slave until he returns, a woman who spends a night while her husband is angry with her, and a people’s Imam whom they dislike.”
📚Tirmidhī, Ḥasan

4. She is loving and merciful with him

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.”
[al-Rūm, 30:21]

Umm Kulthum ibnt ʿUqbah (May Allāh be pleased with her) reported:

Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, ‘The person who (lies) in order to conciliate between people is not a liar, when he conveys good or says (something) good”.The narration in Muslim added: She said, “I never heard him (she meant the Prophet ﷺ) giving permission of lying in anything except in three (things): war, conciliating between people and the conversation of man with his wife and the conversation of a woman with her husband”.
📚Bukhārī and Muslim

Mu’adh ibn Jabal (raḍī Allāhuʿanhu) reported that the Prophet said, “When a wife hurts her husband in this world, his wife in Paradise, from among the hural-ayn says “Do not hurt him. May Allāh destroy you! He is only an alien with you and will soon separate from you to come to us”.
📚Tirmidhī, Ibn Majah, Aḥmad, Ṣaḥīḥ

Narrated Abū Hurayrah:
It was narrated that Abū Hurayrah said: “It was said to the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ: ‘Which woman is best?’ He said: ‘The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth.'”
📚An-Nasaa’ee, Ḥasan

5. She preserves his honour and herself

Fadala ibn ʿUbayd reported that the Prophet, may Allāh bless him and grant him peace, said, “Do not ask about three: a man who parts company with the community, rebels the ruler and dies while he is a still a rebel. Do not ask about him. Or a slave or slave girl who runs away from his master. Or a woman whose husband is absent and who has sufficient provision and then displays her adornments to strangers and mixes freely. Do not ask about three: a man who contends with Allāh regarding His cloak. His cloak is pride and His wrapper is His might. Also, a man who doubts the command of Allāh and someone who despairs of Allāh’s mercy.”
📚Al-Adabul-Mufrad, Ṣaḥīḥ

Abū Malih Huzali reported that some women of Hims or of Syria visited Āʿishah (raḍīyallahu ʿanhu). She said, “You are the women who go to the public baths. I have heard Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ say that there is no woman who removes her garments in a house other than her husband’s but she tears the curtain between her and her Lord.”
📚Tirmidhī, Abū Dāwūd, Aḥmad, Ṣaḥīḥ

6. Keeps his secrets

7. Preserve the home of her husband

Hammam ibn Munabbih said:
These are some of the a ḥadīth of Muḥammad. the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ, transmitted to us on the authority of Abū Hurayrah. So he narrated one Ḥadīth out of them (as this): The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: No woman should observe fast when her spouse is present (in the house) but with his permission. And she should not admit any (maḥram) in his house, while he (her husband) is present, but with his permission. And whatever she spends from his earnings without his sanction, for him is half the reward.
📚Muslim

Abū Hurayrah (May Allāh be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, “It is not lawful for a woman to observe an optional Saum (fast) without the permission of her husband when he is at home. Nor should she allow anyone to enter his house without his permission.”
📚Bukhārī and Muslim

8. Spend anything from his wealth except with his permission

Abū Umāmah Bahiliy said that he heard Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ say during a sermon in the year of the farewell Pilgrimage. “A woman must not spend anything from her husband’s home without his permission”. He was asked, “O Messenger of Allāh! And not even food?” He said, “that is the best of our properties’.
📚Tirmidhī,Abū Dāwūd, Ibn Mājah, Ḥasan

Narrated Aa;ishah (raḍī Allāhu ʿanhā):
Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ said, “When a woman gives in charity from her husband’s meals without wasting the property of her husband, she will get a reward for it, and her husband too will get a reward for what he earned and the storekeeper will have the reward likewise.”
📚Bukhārī

Narrated ʿAbdullāh ibn Amr ibn al-‘As:
The Prophet ﷺ said: It is not permissible for a woman to present a gift (from her husband’s property) except with the permission of her husband.
📚Abū Dāwūd, Ḥasan Ṣaḥiḥ

9. Doesn’t fast except with his permission

Narrated Abū Hurayrah:

The Prophet ﷺ said, “A woman should not fast (optional fasts) except with her husband’s permission if he is at home (staying with her).
📚Bukhārī

10. Does not leave her husband’s house to live elsewhere, including her own parents’ house.

Evidence:
Report narrated in al-Ṣahīhayn about the story of the slander (al-Ifk), in which ʿĀʾishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him): Will you give me permission to go to my parents?
📚Al-Bukhārī (4141) and Muslim (2770).

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💡THE BOOK OF BELIEF (FAITH) | كتاب : الإيمان

21- باب كفران العشير وكفر دون كفر:

(21) CHAPTER. To be ungrateful to one’s husband. And disbelief is of (different grades) lesser (or greater) degrees.

📜Hadeeth No: 29
حدیث نمبر: ٢٩

عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ.


حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ، عَنْ مَالِكٍ، عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَسْلَمَ، عَنْعَطَاءِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، قَالَ: قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: " أُرِيتُ النَّارَ فَإِذَا أَكْثَرُ أَهْلِهَا النِّسَاءُ يَكْفُرْنَ، قِيلَ: أَيَكْفُرْنَ بِاللَّهِ، قَالَ: يَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَ، وَيَكْفُرْنَ الْإِحْسَانَ لَوْ أَحْسَنْتَ إِلَى إِحْدَاهُنَّ الدَّهْرَ، ثُمَّ رَأَتْ مِنْكَ شَيْئًا، قَالَتْ: مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْكَ خَيْرًا قَطُّ ".

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas رضي اللّٰه عنه: The Prophet ﷺ said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He ﷺ replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

📖 صحيح البخاري | Sahīh Bukharī


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📝 من ضيع طفله فقد ضيع كنزا ثمينا:



السؤال :

قال سائل: هل من طريقة يُدرس بها الصبيان دون العاشرة هذه القواعد الأربع المهمة ؟



📣 جواب الـشيخ الـعلامة عبد الله بن عبد الـرحيم الـبخاري -حفظه الله تعالى ورعاه- :


✍ نعم، من تدريس الصبيان، الأطفال، تحفيظهم هذا المتن، وإفهامهم معاني الكلمات الغريبة فقط، إذا كان عنده إدراك، بعد أن تكرر عليه، اشرح له شرحا عاما، لا حرج في هذا إن كان يستوعب، وهذا طيب ومفيد، نعم.

✍ اهتموا بالأطفال، أقول: اهتموا بالأطفال والصبيان، من كان عنده صبية، أو إخوة صغار، وهذا أمر مهم جدا، لا يجوز إغفاله، فهذا الطفل سيكون غدا شابا، ويكون رجلا، فالعناية به مهمة، وأكيدة، والنبي عليه الصلاة والسلام قد اعتنى باﻷطفال، فكان عليه الصلاة والسلام يأخذ الحسن عندما كان يحبو وأتى إلى تمر الصدقة، قال: كِخ كِخ أو كَخ كَخ في ضبطها اثنى عشر لغة، قال عليه الصلاة والسلام: (أما تعلم أنا لا نأكل من تمر الصدقة)، وهو صغير، لكن يربيه، ويعلمه، وهذا حكم نأخذه نحن بعده، أقول: صارت الأحكام والفوائد، فلذا العناية بالأطفال مهمة، ومن ضيع طفله فقد ضيع كنزا ثمينا، فلا يلومن إلا نفسه، اعتني به، واحرص عليه، وانصح له، وربه التربية الحسنة النافعة، ينفعك إن شاء الله إذا احتجته، وفي الحديث الصحيح: (إذا مات العبد انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث) ومن قوله عليه الصلاة والسلام: (أو ولد صالح يدعو له)، وصلاح الآباء له أثر في صلاح الأبناء، كما قال الله جل وعلا: {وكان أبوهما صالحا}، فانتبه، فأصلح نفسك، واسع في صلاح ماذا؟ ذريتك بارك الله فيك.



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☀️[Mercy Towards Children]:

👤al-Imaam as-S’adee, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

Showing mercy towards children, being gentle towards them, and doing things to make them happy are all forms of mercy.

Just as not paying them any attention and a lack of gentleness are forms of roughness, sternness, and cruelty.

An example of this is when some rough bedouins saw the Prophet (ﷺ) and his Companions kissing their small children, one of the bedouins said:

I have ten children; I have not kissed any of them.

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

Am I able to do anything for you, if Allah has removed mercy from your heart?! [1]/[2]
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[1]: Collected by al-Bukhaaree, #6279 and Muslim, #923.

[2]: See “Joy for the Hearts of the Righteous”, by Imaam as-S’adee, pg. 239.    

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⚠️ [Shaytan Threatens You with Poverty]

🔘Allah (ﷻ) said:

﴿ ٱلشَّیۡطَـٰنُ یَعِدُكُمُ ٱلۡفَقۡرَ وَیَأۡمُرُكُم بِٱلۡفَحۡشَاۤءِۖ وَٱللَّهُ یَعِدُكُم مَّغۡفِرَةࣰ مِّنۡهُ وَفَضۡلࣰاۗ وَٱللَّهُ وَ ٰ⁠سِعٌ عَلِیمࣱ﴾

“Satan threatens you with poverty and commands you to immorality, while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is all-Encompassing and all-Knowing.” [Surah Al-Baqarah: 268]

⭐️Sufyan al-Thawri said:

لَيْسَ لِلشَّيْطَانِ سِلَاحٌ عَلَى الإِنْسَانِ مِثْلُ خَوْفِ الفَقْرِ، فَإِذَا قَبِلَ ذَلِكَ مِنْهُ أَخَذَ فِي البَاطِلِ وَمَنَعَ مِنَ الحَقِّ وَتَكَلَّمَ بِالْهَوَى وَظَنَّ بِرَبِّهِ السُّوءَ، وَهُوَ مِنْ أَعْظَمِ الآفَاتِ عَلَى الدِّينِ.

“Satan has no weapon against a person like the fear of poverty. When someone accepts that from him, they start engaging in falsehood, withholding from the truth, speaking based on desires, and thinking ill of their Lord. This is one of the greatest afflictions upon religion.”

🔥It is reported that Shaytan says:

ما غَلَبَنِي ابنُ آدَمَ فَلَنْ يَغْلِبَنِي فِي ثَلَاثٍ، آمُرُهُ أَنْ يَأْخُذَ المَالَ مِنْ غَيْرِ حَقِّهِ وَيُنْفِقَهُ فِي غَيْرِ حَقِّهِ وَيَمْنَعَهُ مِنْ مُسْتَحِقِّهِ.

“The son of Adam will never overpower me in three things: I command him to take wealth unjustly, to spend it unjustly, and to withhold it from those who are deserving of it.”

📚 [Mawārid al-ẓamʾān li-durūs al-zamān, khuṭab wa-ḥikam wa-aḥkām wa-qawāʿid wa-mawāʿiẓ wa-ādāb wa-akhlāq ḥisān (4/598)].

🖊️ Imam Burhan Al-Dīn al Biqā’ī (d. 885 AH رحمه الله) said:

كَأنَّهُ قالَ: هَذا ما لا يُشَكُّ فِيهِ فَما لِلنُّفُوسِ لا تُوجَدُ غالِبًا إلّا شَحِيحَةً بِالإنْفاقِ-:

It is as if Allah (ﷻ) is saying [in the verse]: This [the reward of spending mentioned in the previous verse] is something that is not to be doubted, so why do souls not usually act except with stinginess in spending?

﴿الشَّيْطانُ﴾ أيِ الَّذِي اسْمُهُ أسْوَأُ الأسْماءِ، فَإنَّهُ يَقْتَضِي الهَلاكَ والبُعْدَ، وأحَدُ الوَصْفَيْنِ كافٍ في مُجانَبَتِهِ فَكَيْفَ إذا اجْتَمَعا!

[The reason is:] “Satan”—the one whose name is the worst of names, as it implies destruction and distance (from Allah’s mercy). Either of these characteristics alone would be enough to warrant avoiding him, so how much more so when both are combined!

﴿يَعِدُكُمُ الفَقْرَ﴾ المانِعَ مِنَ الإنْفاقِ. قالَ الحَرالِّيُّ: الَّذِي لِخَوْفِهِ تَقاطَعَ أهْلُ الدُّنْيا وتَدابَرُوا وحَرَصُوا وادَّخَرُوا.

He threatens you with poverty—the poverty that prevents one from spending. Al-Harali said: It is this fear of poverty that causes the people of the world to sever ties, turn against one another, become greedy, and hoard wealth.

وكُلُّ ذَلِكَ لا يُزِيلُ الفَقْرَ، كُلُّ حَرِيصٍ فَقِيرٌ ولَوْ مَلَكَ الدُّنْيا، وكُلُّ مُقْتَنِعٍ غَنِيٌّ،

Yet none of this removes poverty. Every greedy person is poor, even if he owns the whole world, while every content person is wealthy.

ومِن حَقِّ مَن كانَ عَبْدًا لِغَنِيٍّ أنْ يَتَحَقَّقَ أنَّهُ غَنِيٌّ بغنى سَيِّدِهِ،

It is rightful of anyone who is a servant to the One who is wealthy to realize that He is the One who enriches His servant.

فَفي خَوْفِ الفَقْرِ إباقُ العَبْدِ عَنْ رَبِّهِ؛ والفَقْرُ فَقْدُ ما إلَيْهِ الحاجَةُ في وقْتٍ مِن قِيامِ المَرْءِ في ظاهِرِهِ وباطِنِهِ. انْتَهى.

Fear of poverty is like a slave fleeing from his Master; true poverty is the loss of what is needed at a particular time for the maintenance of a person, both outwardly and inwardly.” End of the quote.

📚 [Nazm Al-Durar]

‏[ولِباسُ التَّقْوى ذَلِكَ خَيرٌ]


-قال الإمامُ ابنُ رَجبٍ في(لطائفِ المَعارِفِ)(ص٤٣٧):


"لا يَكمُلُ التّزيُّنُ الظّاهرُ إلّا بتزيُّنِ البَاطنِ بالتّوبةِ والإنابةِ إلى اللهِ وتطهيرِه مِنْ أدْناسِ الذُّنوبِ و أَوْضَارِها؛ فإنّ زينةَ الظّاهرِ معَ خَرابِ البَاطنِ لا تُغْني شيئاً، قال اللهُ تعالى:

{يَا بَنِي آدَمَ قَدْ أَنْزَلْنَا عَلَيْكُمْ لِبَاساً يُوَارِي سَوْآتِكُمْ وَرِيشاً وَلِبَاسُ التَّقْوَى ذَلِكَ خَيْرٌ}.

إِذَا المَرْءُ لمْ يَلْبَسْ ثِيَابَاً مِنَ التُّقَى.
تجَـــرَّدَ عُرْيَانَــاً وَإِنْ كَـانَ كَاسِيَـــاً"



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Telelink: O Children of Adam, Let Not Satan Tempt You - Shaykh Arafat al-Muhammadi [Arabic]

Date: 220th of September 2024

Location: Markaz Al Imam Malik

Edited by Salafi Audio UNLIMITED

خطبة بعنوان:

الإحسان إلى الجيران سبيل أهل الإيمان.

للشيخ: خالد بن ضحوي الظفيري - حفظه الله تعالى.

الموقع:
https://aldhafiri.net/?audio=2777

يوتيوب:
https://youtu.be/ZYkuhakMnaY

🖊️Imaam Sadi stated that this command [i.e. in Surah Al-Israa Aayah 53] is related to every speech that will bring a person close to Allaah, such as recitation [of the Qur’aan], remembrance of Allaah, enjoining good and forbidding evil, [to address the people] with good and gentle speech in accordance with their different social statuses and positions. If something resolves around two good affairs, then Allaah commands that the better of the two is chosen if it is not possible to combine both of them.
Good speech leads to every beautiful mannerism and righteous deed, for indeed the one who controls his tongue will be able to take control of his affairs.

🔗 https://salaficentre.com/2020/01/12/and-say-to-my-slaves-that-they-should-only-say-those-words-that-are-the-best-because-satan-sows-disagreements-among-them/

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•قال تعالى: {وَقُل لِّعِبَادِي يَقُولُوا الَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ ۚ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ يَنزَغُ بَيْنَهُمْ ۚ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ كَانَ لِلْإِنسَانِ عَدُوًّا مُّبِينًا} [الإسراء(٥٣)].

🖊️"وهذا من لطفه بعباده حيث أمرهم بأحسن الأخلاق والأعمال والأقوال الموجبة للسعادة في الدنيا والآخرة فقال:
{وَقُلْ لِعِبَادِي يَقُولُوا الَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ} وهذا أمر بكل كلام يقرب إلى الله من قراءة وذكر وعلم وأمر بمعروف ونهي عن منكر وكلام حسن لطيف مع الخلق على اختلاف مراتبهم ومنازلهم، وأنه إذا دار الأمر بين أمرين حسنين فإنه يأمر بإيثار أحسنهما إن لم يمكن الجمع بينهما.
والقول الحسن داع لكل خلق جميل وعمل صالح فإن من ملك لسانه ملك جميع أمره".

📘[تفسير السعدي -ص(٥٢٩)].

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Wife_Boycotting.mp3

⁉️CAN A WOMAN BOYCOTT HER HUSBAND?

👤Advice to Spouses from
Shaykh ‘Ubayd Al-Jaabiree
-رحمه الله-

❓Question: May Allaah reward you with good, our Shaykh; this is the 6th question. The questioner from Morocco says: Is it permissible for me to boycott my husband when a misunderstanding takes place between us? By boycott I mean not speaking to him and preventing him from touching me.

❗️Answer: The poor girl. Why, my daughter? We do not know that a woman from the female companions or those who followed them did the likes of this action. The best of that which I can advise you with—you and your husband—intending the Pleasure of Allaah, is that it is obligatory upon each of you to have a firm belief that the other party is a trust that is (binding) upon your neck (Translator’s note: i.e., Each is responsible for the other and will be questioned regarding treatment of the other) and it is a must that each fulfills the other’s rights completely; and that one does not transgress against the other with regards to his/her rights. This is the first.

Secondly, I advise each of you to overlook and pardon the other with regards to that which emanates from the other from shortcoming. So if the woman falls short then her husband is advised to pardon her and not punish her for that. If the husband falls short then the wife is advised to pardon him. For perfection is (only) for Allaah.

You and you husband must beware of the dissension (caused by) Shaytaan. I will remind you with this verse:

وَقُل لِّعِبَادِي يَقُولُواْ الَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ يَنزَغُ بَيْنَهُمْ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ كَانَ لِلإِنْسَانِ عَدُوًّا مُّبِينًا

And say to My slaves that they should (only) say those words that are the best. (Because) Shaytaan, verily, sows dissension among them. Surely, Shaytaan is to man a plain enemy. (Al-Isra 17:53)

So you and your husband beware of the dissension (caused by) Shaytaan.

📝Translated by Raha ibn Donald Batts

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Shaykh al-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah on the Meaning of the “Fiṭrah”

ولا يلزم من كونهم مولودين على الفطرة أن يكونوا حين الولادة معتقدين للإسلام بالفعل فإن الله أخرجنا من بطون أمهاتنا لا نعلم شيئا ولكن سلامة القلب وقبوله وإرادته للحق : الذي هو الإسلام بحيث لو ترك من غير مغير لما كان إلا مسلما . وهذه القوة العلمية العملية التي تقتضي بذاتها الإسلام ما لم يمنعها مانع : هي فطرة الله التي فطر الناس عليها

He (رحمه الله) said:

“It is not binding from [the fact] that they are born upon the fiṭrah (original disposition), that they practically believe in Islām at the moment of birth, for Allāh brought us out of the wombs of our mothers while we know nothing. However, it is the safety of the heart and its acceptance of and desire for the truth which is Islām in the sense that if it was left without anything to change it [from this disposition), it would not be except a Muslim. This [innate] strength [of the heart’s] knowledge and action which by itself necessitates Islām, so long as no obstacle prevents it, is the fiṭrah of Allāh upon which He created mankind.” Majmūʿ al-Fatāwā (4/247).

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🔐Perfection in a Wife?

👤Shaykh Muhammad Ibn al-Uthaymeen (d.1421 A.H.) said:

‘Indeed many husbands want their wives to be perfect. This matter is not possible, so due to that husbands fall into worry and concern and are incapable of enjoyment and delight with their wives, and perhaps this could lead to divorce.

Just like the Messenger -ﷺ- said:

“وإن ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها”
وكسرها طلاقها .

‘If you tried to straighten her you would break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.’

Therefore, it is necessary for the husband to be easy going and overlook everything that a wife does as long as it does not contradict the Deen or nobility.’

📖[Haqooq Da’at ilayhi al Fitra 22]

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قال الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمة الله :
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إن كثيرا من الأزواج يريدون الحالة الكاملة من زوجاتهم، وهذا شيء غير ممكن؛  وبذلـك يقعون فـي النكد، ولا يتمكنون من الاستمتاع والمتعة بزوجاتهم، وربما أدى ذلـك إلى الطلاق
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‏كما قال صلى الله عليه وسلم :

“وإن ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها”
وكسرها طلاقها.

فينبغي للزوج أن يتساهل ويتغاضى عن كل ماتفعله الزوجة إذا كان لايخل بالدين أو الشرف.

‏📖حقوق دعت إليها الفطرة  ٢٢

📝Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

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✍🏻 Sh. Muhammad bin Ghalib al-'Umari:

‏مَعَ مُتَطَلَّبَاتِ الحَيَاةِ يَسْعَى البَعْضُ أَنْ تَكُونَ شَرِيكَةُ حَيَاتِهِ مُوَظَّفَةً تُسَانِدُهُ فِي أُمُورِ الحَيَاةِ.
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With the demands of life, some people seek for their life partner (wife) to be employed, to assist them in life's matters.

وَلَا حَرَجَ فِي ذَلِكَ بَلْ هُوَ مِنَ التَّعَاوُنِ المَطْلُوبِ بِمَا أَنَّهُ وَفْقَ دَائِرَةِ الصَّوَابِ.

There is no harm in this, and it is indeed a form of necessary cooperation, as long as it is within the bounds of what is right.

وَلَكِنْ هُنَا لَا نَنْسَى الزَّوْجَاتِ مِنْ رَبَّاتِ البُيُوتِ القَائِمَاتِ بِالجُهُودِ الكَبِيرَةِ فِي تَرْبِيَةِ الأَبْنَاءِ وَخِدْمَةِ أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ.. فَهُنَّ أَسَاسٌ وَسَنَدٌ وَعَوْنٌ وَجُهُودُهُنَّ مَذْكُورَةٌ مَشْكُورَةٌ.

However, let us not forget the wives who are homemakers, making great efforts in raising children and serving their husbands... for they are a foundation, a support, and a help, and their efforts are recognized and appreciated.

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✍🏻 Sh. Muhammad bin Ghalib al-'Umari -may Allah preserve him-:

لَن أَتَنَازَلَ حَتَّى يَأْتِيَ وَيَعْتَذِرَ

"I will not give in/let it go until so-and-so comes and apologizes"

كَمْ هَدَمَتْ هَذِهِ العِبَارَةُ مِنْ عَلاقَاتٍ وَثِيقَةٍ.

How many strong relationships have
been destroyed by this phrase.

وَكَمْ أَفْسَدَتْ بَيْنَ الأَحِبَّةِ.

How much damage it has caused between loved ones.

وَكَمْ نَفَخَ فِيهَا الشَّيْطَانُ لِتَدُومَ القَطِيعَةُ.

And how much the devil has blown
into it to prolong the estrangement.

فِي الحَدِيثِ: "يُعْرِضُ هَذَا وَيُعْرِضُ هَذَا، وَخَيْرُهُمَا الَّذِي يَبْدَأُ بِالسَّلَامِ."

In the hadith: "This one turns away, and that one turns away, and the better of the two is the one who initiates with peace (the greeting of salām)."

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الوعيد الشديد لمن ترك الجمعة والجماعة

📮 #السؤال :

ورد في الحديث : سئل ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما عن رجل يقوم الليل ويصوم النهار ولكنه لا يشهد الجمعة والجماعة ، فقال : هو في النار ، ما صحة هذا الحديث الشريف؟

📄 #الجواب :

هذا #الأثر معروف عن ابن عباس ، وصحيح عنه رضي الله عنهما ، وهو يدل على أن إضاعة الجمعة والجماعة من أسباب دخول النار ، والعياذ بالله.

وقد صح عن رسول الله ﷺ أنه قال : ((لينتهين أقوام عن تركهم الجُمُعات أو ليختمن الله على قلوبهم ثم ليكونن من الغافلين)) خرجه مسلم في صحيحه عن أبي هريرة وابن عمر رضي الله تعالى عنهم ، وخرج أبو داود بإسناد صحيح عن النبي ﷺ أنه قال : ((من ترك ثلاث جمع تهاونا بها طبع الله على قلبه)) ، وقال عليه الصلاة والسلام : ((من سمع النداء ولم يأت فلا صلاة له إلا من عذر)).

فالواجب على المسلم #البدار بإجابة النداء للجمعة والجماعة ، وأن لا يتأخر عن ذلك ، ومتى تأخر عن ذلك #بغير عذر شرعي -كالمرض والخوف- فهو متوعد بالنار ، ولو كان يصوم النهار ويقوم الليل.

نسأل الله لنا ولجميع المسلمين السلامة والعافية من كل سوء.

📚 #مجموع_الفتاوى لسماحة الشيخ ابـن بـاز رحمه الله

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