seeing our current situation, i feel the need to up this confession back:
#usmkk3706
Nak tanya geng terpaling halal, manusia yang sentiasa berzikir "bercinta lepas kahwin, couple itu haram setiap hari" dekat sini. Okay sorry terlebih sarkastik
Macam mana korang nak kenal diri sebenar potential life partner korang kalau tak couple dulu? Sure, kita boleh kenal seseorang semasa berkawan, tapi cukup ke? Someone can be a good friend but a horrible partner. Or some narcissistic and abusive person hide themselves really well in social setting.
Ada yang dah dating bertahun baru sedar yang partner diorang toxic and manipulative. Ramai yang dah kenal bertahun baru sedar yang diorang punya partner is abusive and controlling.
At least kalau belum kahwin boleh blah gitu je. Kalau dah kahwin terus, you're trapped. One of the common method of manipulation is to socially isolate the victim. Marriage seems like a great tools for that.
Are you sure that your "bercinta lepas kahwin" partner is not abusive, gaslighter, kaki pukul, panas baran, financially irresponsible, closeted flatearther and antivaxxer, or someone who doesn't think that marital rape is a thing? Seems like a game of russian roulette to me.
And just like any other things in life. Maintaining a relationship needs an experience. Korang sure ke korang boleh handle a relationship tanpa pengalaman. First relationship usually doesn't end really well, let alone when you're legally binded by marriage while dealing with abusive partner
Okay let's assume "bercinta lepas kahwin" is more prevalent in muslim community (which I doubt the significance anyway because most muslim I know date around):
According to department of statistics, Divorce rate of malaysian in general is 6.1 and 6.2 for man and women respectively..
However, divorce rate for muslim are 7.1 and 7.3. while non-muslim are 4.4 and 4.5. Do whatever you want with this information
I don't want to listen to your religious opinion. I want to know what is your plan regarding marriage, how do you decide if someone is worth marrying. Or you just kahwin first find out later, rambo style.
I'm expecting some "kita nak kenal orang, kita kena tengok agama dia". I have news for you, people can be hypocrite. Personal experience, worse human I know always hide themselves behind religion.
For me marriage is (hopefully) once in a lifetime things. Both marriage and divorce are expensive, I don't want to take any chance
Nak tanya geng terpaling halal, manusia yang sentiasa berzikir "bercinta lepas kahwin, couple itu haram setiap hari" dekat sini. Okay sorry terlebih sarkastik
ā¦ā¦.
r: if He says itās haram then your opinion isnt matter. nak cakap tu je sebenarnya but ik you dont want the āreligious opinionā, according to you.